Admit When You’re Wrong…or Fail

Have you ever seen that Morgan Freeman movie, Invictus?

In it, he quotes a poem of the same name that goes “I am the master of my fate; I am the captain of my soul” and I think that’s the unofficial motto of just about every man I’ve ever met.

I’ve never met a man who likes to admit when they’re wrong.

We want to be in control — of our businesses, the state of our personal relationships, and our lives.

To admit that we’re wrong is to admit that we might not be the best person to be in charge of our own lives.

That’s not true, of course.

But that’s what it feels like.

It’s a loss of control.

Even though it’s impossible to know everything all the time, we want to believe that we do.

At least, we want to pretend that we always do the right thing when it comes to our businesses and families.

That desire to always feel in control blinds us when we’re making the wrong decisions.

Instead of immediately owning up to our bad choices and course correcting, we commit to the wrong paths until the bitter end.

Making a wrong choice is normal and to be expected; doubling down on that wrong choice because you hate to admit you’re wrong…well, that can destroy everything you’ve worked so hard to build.

In business, we can see if we’ve made the wrong choice by our results.

This is why we pay attention to analytics.

Yeah, you’re not going to see amazing results overnight, but you will be able to tell if something is working.

Any strategy — no matter how good you thought it would be — that isn’t working should be abandoned.

I know this seems obvious, but I also work with men who don’t want to let go of anything because then they have to admit that they might have been wrong about it.

And let’s get real about your personal life: if it feels bad to be with your girlfriend or wife — if the time you spend together is more stressful than renewing — then you’ve made some bad choices.

Your choice of partner is not necessarily bad, but the way you’re approaching the relationship needs some work.

Should you keep powering through with a relationship that’s draining you…or should you find where you went wrong and course correct?

Having the willingness and ability to course correct will transform your life.

Plus, admitting when you’re wrong gives you the ability to pinpoint exact decisions and moments that weren’t good for you, and now you can avoid them in the future.

It’s not weakness to admit when you’re wrong.

In fact, it’s a strength.

The only way you can be the master of your fate is to recognize when you’re heading towards a future that doesn’t thrill you.

Jonny Hopkinson
Reject The Norm, Refuse To Be Average, Redefine Your Reality